Updated: Apr 19
During the Covid lockdowns of 2020 Kandace and I took the opportunity to turn inwards, focusing on ourselves and our connection. We would spend an hour or two most mornings, naked, in bed connecting to the energies of our bodies. Our previous plant medicine journeys had opened our minds and brought our attention to the energetic fields that surround us all. We used our intuition as our guide and organically and orgasmically we learned how to harness and control these energies and share them with each other. We hadn't studied any of the Eastern sexual practices to understand what to do, we just did what our bodies asked us to do. We listened to each other and ourselves. We did what made us feel the best, and brought the most pleasure. It turns out that what we were doing had been described for hundreds of years, if not longer in Asian and Indian manuscripts. By combining these practices with the more modern approach of Karezza we had created a hybrid model, one that worked well for us and apparently for those we have shared it with.
Karezza, Tantra, and Taoist sexual techniques are ancient practices that focus on harnessing sexual energy for physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Combining these practices can lead to full-body energetic orgasms without the need to ejaculate, allowing you to build energy in the body and experience heightened states of pleasure and connection.
Karezza is a form of slow, gentle sex that emphasizes emotional intimacy and non-goal-oriented pleasure. In Karezza, partners focus on staying present at the moment, deepening their connection, and experiencing pleasure without the goal of an ejaculatory orgasm. The practice involves slowing down and using deep breathing, eye contact, and gentle touch to cultivate a sense of relaxation and intimacy. (Karezza comes from the Italian word “carezza” meaning caress).
Tantra is a spiritual practice that involves using sexual energy to achieve higher states of consciousness. It emphasizes the connection between mind, body, and spirit, and aims to use sexual energy to awaken the Kundalini, a dormant energy located at the base of the spine. In Tantra, partners focus on building and circulating sexual energy through various techniques such as breathwork, visualization, and meditation.
Taoist sexual techniques are based on the principles of Traditional Chinese Medicine and focus on cultivating and balancing the body's internal energy, or chi. Taoist sexual practices involve using the body's natural rhythms and cycles to cultivate sexual energy and strengthen the body's internal organs. These practices include techniques such as the "microcosmic orbit" and "the big draw," which involve breathing and visualization to circulate sexual energy through the body.
To combine these practices, start by practicing Karezza with your partner. Focus on slowing down, connecting with each other, and experiencing pleasure without the goal of orgasm. Use eye gazing and gentle touch to cultivate a sense of relaxation and intimacy. Go slow and with intention.
Next, incorporate Tantra techniques into your practice. Start by practicing breathwork together, using deep, slow breaths to build and circulate sexual energy. Practice meditation to deepen your connection and awareness. Use tantric massage techniques to keep you focused and present.
Finally, incorporate Taoist sexual techniques into your practice. Use the "microcosmic orbit" technique to circulate sexual energy through your body, starting at the base of the spine and moving up through the body's energy centers. Use the "big draw" technique to draw sexual energy up through the body and circulate it through the internal organs.
Through the combination of these practices, (we call it Neo-Karezza) you can experience full-body energetic orgasms without ejaculating, allowing you to build energy in the body and experience heightened states of pleasure and connection. It allows one to reach extended pleasure and spiritual states that surpass the momentary ecstasy of a singular ejaculatory orgasm. Remember to approach these practices with an open mind and a willingness to explore and experiment. With time and practice, you can cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and your partner, and experience the transformative power of sexual energy.
All forms of these methods require mental preparation. They first require the understanding and faith that a relationship's spiritual and tender side is much more pleasurable than purely sexual acts where ejaculation is the goal. Secondly, they require the knowledge that sex is just one part of intimate connection and should always be subordinate to the caressive side.
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